Anger Management

Anger is a natural emotion that automates the defence of the self if we are attacked. However, if the anger is starting to affect your life negatively in your relationships, your family, your friends, your judgements, your choices, your children, and your health or at work, it is a good indication that you need to seek help. A counsellor can help you in identifying your trigger points before the anger affects the rest of your life.  Anger, like all other emotions, can be controlled with effort.

What’s angry? Anger is an emotion. Anger can be mild or severe and causes physical and mental changes in a person.  A person’s blood pressure and heart rate will elevate with anger. The person will feel an adrenaline rise with anger. Physical signs we see and hear in an angry person can look like these: red face, narrow/wide eyes, frown lines, body stretched out wide and large, pacing movements, fists clenching/ hitting, throwing objects, resisting force or conversation, walking away yelling, ignoring others, repeated language, unsettled.

When anger is out of control, it can become abusive and violent behaviour. In some cases, people are angry because of abuse or violence. Either way abuse and violence relate to control issues of intimidation and creating a fear in others.

What to look for in Anger?
  • Verbal, physical, mental or emotional abuse.
  • When your family & friends worried about your anger.
  • When you get angry often or become angry quickly 0-100 in seconds.
  • You are unable to clam yourself down when angry.
  • The anger is bigger than the cause.
  • It’s the only way you get what you want.
  • Angry at none related triggers.
  • You start to become anxious or depressed about your anger.
  • The anger is around for a long time.
  • You get angry with the less powerful and closest people to you.
Why is it we get angry?
Many variables in our lives can cause anger.  Sometimes we feel angry because we did not achieve or get what we wanted from others. We have expectations of others and we get angry when they are not met.  We may feel frustrated by things like work, people, circumstances, stress, places, failures, disappointments, obstacles, time, money, power, love, success, freedom, chores or even hurt by others. Anger is usually tied in with other negative emotions. Sometimes it is hard to identify the connected emotions, especially for men.  Negative emotions can look like frustrated, frightened, depressed, anxious, worried, embarrassed, and more. When we are angry in any way as above we frighten the people around us and usually after some time these people will have nothing more to do with you.
How do we control or address our Anger issues with Anger Management Counseling?
We start with identifying we have anger issues and need help from a trained psychotherapist. Then we need to start learning how to manage our anger. It was once stated expressing your anger, was a releasing of the anger. However, new studies have indicated that this just adds to the anger. Bottling up anger can cause other health problems. If we bottle up our anger it can later become explosive, or turn into another mental health illness. Managing your anger happens with the support of your psychotherapist and identifying early signs of anger, trigger points, and learning calming techniques. One of the difficulties for anger clients is identifying the warning signs of anger. Along with your therapist, you will be able to learn these strategies, recognise them and practice them to calm yourself out of anger way.
Counselling Anger Management
If you have clicked on the anger management tab of a counselling website, then you either occasionally see the ferocious red or have a loved one with uncontrollable emotions. If anger gets out of hand, it can negatively impact just about every aspect of your life ranging from relationships with your friends, family, and colleagues. It can also seep into your judgements, perceptions, and create long term effects on your health. As they so often say, the first step to dealing with a problem such as anger is to admit there is one after which you will be better equipped to identify and deal with it. Excessive anger can come from trauma, childhood, frustration, or abruptly changing situations. It can also be exacerbated by substance use.
Anger as an Evolutionary Trait

While anger is a natural, and healthy emotion that has evolved to help humans succeed in life by recalibrating their opponents view of their strength and bargaining abilities. It has been found that an individual who is stronger is more likely to employ anger with their counterpart becoming more willing to concede to this display of strength. Non direct anger, as the one we experience when we witness injustice to our loved ones or even in distant circumstances, has been linked to maintaining a prosperous society. Unfortunately, anger can also quickly deviate from being a productive means of communication into a catastrophe if not properly controlled

Recognising Anger
Anger is an emotion that causes an individual to display physical and mental changes. The heartbeat will elevate, adrenalin kicks in, facial expressions change, muscles tense, and body position shifts. If anger transgresses from emotion to taking the cognitive thinking and leading to potentially abusive behaviour. Abuse and violence can result from lost tempers, which is why fiery individuals benefit from learning anger management techniques.
Anger Management Techniques
One of the things you will begin discussing with your counsellors is your triggers and underlying issues which aggravate you beyond a point of control. After understanding the background and identifying root causes, your counsellor will help by providing a range of anger management techniques to find healthier ways to communicate instead of flying into a rage. Open and accepting conversation can often be the first step towards successful management of your emotions, as keeping negative emotions can lead to an array of mental health illness. Your counsellor will work closely with you to find personalised methods to help you with your treatment.
Why is it important to manage your anger?
Some side effects of anger can include alienating friends and family, putting strains on relationships, and even sinking into an isolating depression. If you have found your anger impacting these parts of your life, it might be a good idea to book a session with your family to help deal with problems in a safe environment. So, consider Voxen counselling as the place to go on the gold coast for all your counseling needs to work towards a healthier, and happier tomorrow.


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