Anger is a natural emotion that automates the defence of the self if we are attacked. However, if the anger is starting to affect your life negatively in your relationships, your family, your friends, your judgements, your choices, your children, and your health or at work, it is a good indication that you need to seek help. A counsellor can help you in identifying your trigger points before the anger affects the rest of your life. Anger, like all other emotions, can be controlled with effort.
What’s angry? Anger is an emotion. Anger can be mild or severe and causes physical and mental changes in a person. A person’s blood pressure and heart rate will elevate with anger. The person will feel an adrenaline rise with anger. Physical signs we see and hear in an angry person can look like these: red face, narrow/wide eyes, frown lines, body stretched out wide and large, pacing movements, fists clenching/ hitting, throwing objects, resisting force or conversation, walking away yelling, ignoring others, repeated language, unsettled.
When anger is out of control, it can become abusive and violent behaviour. In some cases, people are angry because of abuse or violence. Either way abuse and violence relate to control issues of intimidation and creating a fear in others.
What to look for in Anger?
- Verbal, physical, mental or emotional abuse.
- When your family & friends worried about your anger.
- When you get angry often or become angry quickly 0-100 in seconds.
- You are unable to clam yourself down when angry.
- The anger is bigger than the cause.
- It’s the only way you get what you want.
- Angry at none related triggers.
- You start to become anxious or depressed about your anger.
- The anger is around for a long time.
- You get angry with the less powerful and closest people to you.
Why is it we get angry?
How do we control or address our Anger issues with Anger Management Counseling?
Counselling Anger Management
Anger as an Evolutionary Trait
While anger is a natural, and healthy emotion that has evolved to help humans succeed in life by recalibrating their opponents view of their strength and bargaining abilities. It has been found that an individual who is stronger is more likely to employ anger with their counterpart becoming more willing to concede to this display of strength. Non direct anger, as the one we experience when we witness injustice to our loved ones or even in distant circumstances, has been linked to maintaining a prosperous society. Unfortunately, anger can also quickly deviate from being a productive means of communication into a catastrophe if not properly controlled
Anger Management Techniques
Why is it important to manage your anger?
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